Comments on: Fuck A Date: Why Dating Is Overrated…

By: jess

jess — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 19:48:37 +0000

Honestly, I hate dating. I never did it until the beginning of this year, and it exhausted me, I somehow went broke, and suddenly my closet wasn’t right for me anymore. It takes up a lot of time and a lot of money, both of which I don’t have.

However, I must say. They were great learning experiences. They taught me to up the bar on my standards, they boosted my confidence (and the more I have it, the better a person I am.. or appear to be). I learned proper etiquettes through trial and error. It’s frustrating, but that’s what learning experiences are supposed to be. You fuck up with people youre never gonna see again, or you learn the things that you cannot accept for the sake of your happiness, so that you can finally apply that to the one you want to keep.

By: Be Proactive! That is the Key « So Let it be Written, So Let it be Done!

Be Proactive! That is the Key « So Let it be Written, So Let it be Done! — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 19:51:13 +0000

[...] Apparently a friend of hers is in town so they were likely going to go out tonight (and perhaps why she didn’t bother to call me – because we tend to think that a “date” must be alone time between the two people). Well, I aim to change the way I treat “dates”. I think I talked a little about that here (click link). [...]

By: Deviant

Deviant — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 21:12:49 +0000

see Dom you were close but you missed it by a little. Its not about replacing dates. I’m not out to impress anyone. Thats what a date is right? I’m saying fuck that….Imma just do me. My people know I’m not cheap and they know well of my high level of creativity. I’m saying I’d rather spend the time wasted on trying to impress a stranger and instead call some cool chick (or dude if you swing that way) and hang with them. Do whatever it is you do. There are a number of things I like to do in the city that are just more fun with someone there. Its about the person after all right? If you like that person it doesn’t matter what you do. Everyone involved will be better for it.

By: Dom

Dom — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 20:54:48 +0000

I was feeling you man. The top part (and the link to the Olsens) is both true and hilarious. I have deemed myself “Queen of the First Date” since I’ve been on at least 6 in the past few months where I wind up bored as shit while Im there, and wondering why Im even out with dude since I’m not interested in the first place.

Dating sucks! I dont know anyone who *genuinely* enjoys it, but even less appealing is the idea of men replacing dates with movies at their house/drinks at the bar/or over to smoke. That screams immature and CHEAP AS HELL! Im not saying you have to spend a buch of $, but at least be creative.

My favorite date ever was with my last bf, we went to Barnes and Nobles and walked around looking at books and mags, and then went for ice cream.

All Im saying is, put some effort into it. Inviting a woman to chill at your “sweet spot” with intentions of getting ass afterwards is so corny. Only lame chicks fall for that shit.

By: Ana B

Ana B — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 19:06:37 +0000

I love this and I will share this with all my single friends… A better analogy has never been made. I raise my glass of red (as I sit in the sweet spot) to you.

By: kamakula

kamakula — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 18:57:31 +0000

I subscribe to a viewpoint that a man does not “date” a woman. Instead, he invites her to join him in his normal activities (of course, the more interesting ones).

So, if I’m going to play pool with some friends, invite the new chick. If I’m going to go catch a cool new movie, invite the new chick. If I’m going to spend 3 hours wandering around aimlessly in a new part of the city, invite the new chick. If I’m going to go shopping for new sunglasses. . . invite the new chick.

Going out to restaurants is cool, however, you will always feel artificial and conversation will be strained if it is not something that you do on a regular basis. If you want to get to know someone and evaluate them for how well they’d fit into your life, interests, goals, and vice-versa, what better way than to involve them in exactly that?

Worst case, you’d always be having fun even if things didn’t go well.